#492: The Art of Losing Isn’t Hard To Master

I know very little about poetry. But a poem I’ve appreciated is “One Art,” by Elizabeth Bishop. Have you read it? It’s a poem about loss. The first line is, “The art of losing isn’t hard to master.”

I’ve experienced my share of loss, as we all have. Maybe that’s why one of my favorite articles of all time is “When Things Go Missing,” by Kathryn Schulz. Maybe that’s why I’m grateful for Melinda’s Grief Corner. There’s something about the theme of loss that resonates with me personally — and that connects us all.

This week’s issue is a bit different. Instead of four articles, you’re getting seven. They’re all centered on loss. However, they’re not all sad! My hope is that at least one of them will spark new thinking or expand your empathy. As always, thank you for being here, and I hope you have a good weekend ahead.

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After the Fires, Spreadsheet Activism
by Chelsea Kirk • n+1 • 20 min • Gift Link

The wildfires in Los Angeles last January caused devastating loss. Thirty people were killed, and 200,000 more had to evacuate. More than 18,000 homes and structures burned, along with 57,000 acres of land. Within the first three days of the inferno, community organizer Chelsea Kirk noticed a disturbing trend: Landlords were jacking up prices for homes and apartments. For instance, a two-bedroom apartment, which had listed for $3,595 on Jan. 7, had jumped 25 percent two days later, then another 33 percent the next day, reaching $5,995. This price gouging was widespread. To fight back, Ms. Kirk opened up a new Google spreadsheet and got to work, raising awareness and pressuring authorities to enforce existing law. But her ultimate goal was bigger. Ms. Kirk writes: “What landlords fear is that we might imagine something better: a world where housing isn’t a commodity at all, a world without landlords.”

The Biggest Loser
by Luke Winkie • Slate • 21 min • Gift Link

When you’re gambling at a casino, you’re not supposed to want to lose money. But don’t tell that to Vegas Matt (real name: Stephen Matt Morrow). He loses gargantuan amounts of money — a total of $404,000 last year, in fact — and somehow keeps a smile on his face. He even brings his 30-year-old son EJ along for the ride, encouraging him to capture his financial fiascos on his iPhone. “Oh my God!” Vegas Matt exclaims joyfully to the camera, “We cannot win a hand!” What explains this strange behavior? Turns out there’s only one thing better than winning, and that is having 1.1 million YouTube followers who love to watch you lose.

It Comes For Your Very Soul
by Michael Aylwin • The Guardian • 24 min • Gift Link

Over the last 10 years, I have read many articles about Alzheimer’s disease. It’s what I do. They’re all sad. They’re all beautiful. They’re all about loss. This is one of my favorites.

Michael Aylwin: “We’re all braced for the overarching tragedy of a dementia patient’s decline, but far too little airtime is given to how much it will drive you mad with irritation on a day-to-day level. Both of you. It works both ways. She annoyed me more than I can say, but if anything I annoyed her more.

“One of you ends up doing everything for the other, which in the context of the disease is fair enough. But the other, already disconcerted by the deterioration of their powers, is driven to distraction by the constant presence of their spouse and the insult, as they see it, of the continual meddling and assisting. Fury is the regular result. Which in turn drives the carer mad with frustration. To have to do everything in the house, including the heavy duty of a spouse’s personal care, and be raged at for your pains.”

The Last of Their Kind
by Elena Kazamia • Nautilus • 11 min • Gift Link

Najin and Fatu are the last two northern white rhinos on Earth. Najin is Fatu’s mother. They live in Ol Pejeta, a wildlife reserve on the plains of northern Kenya. After they die, the species will go extinct. For several years, humans have tried to reverse the inevitability of this forever loss. “No two rhinos have been put through more of an ordeal than Najin and Fatu,” Elena Kazamia writes in this thoughtful article. Both Najin and Fatu have been prodded, poked, given hormonal treatments, inseminated — all to no avail. Now Colossal Biosciences, the company that “brought back” the dire wolf, wants to resurrect the northern white rhino via genetic engineering.

➕ Want to read my favorite article on Najin and Fatu? Here it is, from the Article Club archives, circa 2021. Loyal reader Xuan-Vu found the piece “exquisitively written.”

Wayne, who belongs to loyal reader Clare, is experiencing a variety of feelings about his fresh haircut. Nominate your pet to appear here: hltr.co/pets.

The Missing Men At College
by Kirk Carapezza & Jon Marcus • Hechinger Report & GBH News
14 min • Gift Link

A couple Januarys ago, I interviewed Paul Tough, author of “Saying No To College,” which revealed how our attitudes on higher education have drastically changed over the past decade. Nearly half of young people today say that a high school diploma is sufficient to “ensure financial security.” The result is that fewer Americans overall will go to college, and in particular, the number of men who enroll will continue to plummet. This podcast episode explains this “demographic cliff” and explores the ways some colleges are trying to curb the decline in enrollment (and therefore the loss of tuition dollars). One common answer: Make it easier for men to get in!

Was Integration The Wrong Goal?
by Justin Driver • The Atlantic • 10 min • Gift Link

No doubt, Brown v. Board was a watershed in the history of the United States. But for Noliwe Rooks, the landmark Supreme Court decision was a loss in two ways. First, the promise of integration never came to fruition. The American appetite to follow through with the Court’s decision was meager at best. Second, the public schools that served Black students were shuttered, and their teachers fired. In short, loving, caring communities were dismantled for a spurious cause. In this book review of Integrated: How American Schools Failed Black Children, Justin Driver appreciates Prof. Rooks’s main argument but questions her conclusion that Black people at the time did not seek integrated schools.

Are Books Dead? Why Gen Z Doesn’t Read
by Jean M. Twenge • Generation Tech • 5 min • Gift Link

Let’s say that you’re at a cocktail party, or any awkward gathering, and you’re in the mood to rile up a group of strangers. There are many topics you could choose from. An easy one is anything-AI. Another is whether cursive should be taught in school. But my personal favorite is how young people just don’t read books anymore, and what are we going to do about this horror? If you’re like me and like to come prepared with statistics, this article (graphs galore) will come in handy. Sadly and unfortunately, you can say to your fellow interlocutors, the great reading apocalypse looks to be inevitable. While you’re at it, you can add, it’s all the fault of kids-these-days. (Just don’t bring up the follow-up question: What’s the last book you read?)

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A small Spring gift for you

Hi there Article Clubbers!

Thank you again for supporting me and Article Club. Your paid subscription allowed me this week to subscribe to The Wall Street Journal and The Chronicle of Higher Education, publications with hard paywalls. Thanks to your generosity, I’m looking forward to bringing great articles from those publications to the newsletter.

It’s time again to demonstrate my gratitude. Today I have four quick things: a small gift, a graph about reading, a pet photo, and a poll. Let’s do it!

1️⃣ I have a small Spring gift for you, if you’re interested.

Some of you know that I’ve been highlighting and annotating online articles since 2009. Last week, my reading program (Readwise Reader) told me I had surpassed 35,000 articles. This means I’ve collected tons of great, deep, thoughtful quotations. Want to receive one of these quotations in the mail?

If so, either (1) hit reply and share your mailing address, or (2) fill out this form. Either way, I won’t save your personal info. But you’ll get a handwritten quotation delivered to you on a postcard via the old-fashioned U.S. Postal Service.

2️⃣ Here’s a troubling graph about the state of reading.

There are no surprises here, but it’s still a little sad. Sometimes I wonder if my reading has declined. It doesn’t feel like it, but who knows? Have you noticed any changes in your reading habits? (I’ve definitely heard: less news, more books.)

3️⃣ Wayne belongs to loyal reader Clare and knows how to snooze.

We’re nearly 10 years into this newsletter, and the cute pet photos do not abate. Here’s Wayne taking a nap, because being a dog is tough. If you’ve secretly been wanting your pet to appear in the newsletter, now’s your chance.

4️⃣ I’d like your feedback: Is the monthly discussion format confusing?

If you’ve been here a long time, you remember that the newsletter used to be articles only. Then five years ago, I launched an article club feature, which included an article of the month, an author interview, and a discussion on Zoom.

I’ve been hearing from some readers that this is confusing. Because the weekly articles and the article of the month are both part of the same Thursday issue, they can’t tell which is which. Is the current format confusing to you?

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Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Also, if you think it’s confusing, I’d love to hear your ideas about how to make the format clearer. Thank you!

All right, that’s it for now. Once again, thank you for reading Article Club and supporting this newsletter with your hard-earned dollars.

May the rest of your weekend be joyful, and your week ahead delightful,

Mark

#491: How Do Young Men See The World?

Hi Loyal Readers, I hope this week has been a good one, and thank you for opening up my newsletter and getting into some good articles.

Longtime subscribers know that I’ve been following the state of the American man for several years, well before the recent media fascination of all-things-manosphere. For the most part, I’m no longer interested in reading random writers’ takes on this topic. But this week’s lead piece — a collection of 12 testimonials of men in their 20s, and how they see the world — earned my respect as a reader. The men’s words are raw, direct, thoughtful, and pointed. I hope you take a look. (You might need to breathe first, though, before launching in.)

If you can’t stomach reading about the perspectives and concerns of men, I invite you to scroll down, where you’ll find a delightful haiku, then devote your time to two excellent articles about animals. They are:

My hope is that at least one of this week’s three articles will spark new thinking, expand your empathy, or bring you joy. As always, thank you for being here.

1️⃣ How Do Young Men See The World?

When I began reading this compilation of 12 testimonials from young men, I didn’t expect to be so moved. In fact, at first, I bristled and got defensive. But then I took a breath and began to read more slowly, taking in their words and listening with empathy. Here are a couple excerpts:

Carter Plantinga, 22 years old: “Many of the young men in my life — certainly not all, I wouldn’t even say most, but way, way more than I’d think is normal — have no close friends. Like, they have guys they go out and drink with. But if something is weighing on you, if your mom is sick, I could probably name three or four men in my everyday life who would have no one in their lives to speak to about that.”

Padraig Fournier, 24 years old: “I’ve only really had one serious relationship — a long story, but it didn’t work out. I’m not a big fan of the whole manosphere and red pill and all that stuff, but there were definitely times when I’d find myself scrolling on my phone, and I’d come across videos, obviously framed to show how women are bad, and I wouldn’t agree with them, but I could kind of say, at least for a little while, ‘Yeah, that’s how it feels.’ It’s just a lot easier to feel like you’re the victim of some wrongdoing. And if you’re a young man who suffers some sort of ego injury, that online ecosystem is very easy to plug yourself into.”

Emilio Rios, 21 years old: “I don’t doubt that I’ll make money. I know I have skills, and it’s not like I’m just going to be sitting around. The doubt is about whether I can make enough to support my parents one day, to live an actually comfortable life, to have savings, a 401(k), a retirement plan. I know that the odds are not good. Honestly, it kind of feels like I was born too late. Like I missed out on something. It feels like I’m living in a generation where we’re cleaning up after someone else’s mess.”

By Devin Gordon • Esquire • 27 min • Gift Link

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✏️ I’d love to hear from you

How do young men in your life see the world?

Share your perspective, or the perspective of a man in your life. You can hit reply to reach me directly. Or if you are comfortable, leave a comment, so fellow Article Clubbers can benefit from your contribution. Thank you for being part of our reading community.

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In this haiku, Samuel Brann, a second grader at Action Day Elementary in San Jose, shares his love of books. Samuel also loves soccer, word searches, tetherball, Pokémon cards, and spending time with his family. He is currently reading Spy School and just completed the entire Captain Underpants series.

2️⃣ The Price of Eggs, Or The Death Of A Chicken

Christopher Solomon: “Muffy had been a handsome bird. Along with her sister, she was the largest of the flock, squash-colored, with the classically curved back of the breed, a white feather-duster rump and a modest but proud sail of a comb. Both were consistent layers of large brown eggs. Muffy was particularly fond of shade and languor, and she spent warm spring days beneath the lilacs wallowing in dust baths where she suffocated mites.

“I feel a need to relate the events that preceded the death, not because the fowl and I were overmuch close (we were not), nor to assuage a guilt (though there is always blame to hand around after such things), but because as E. B. White wrote of his own barnyard loss, she suffered in a suffering world. And pain deserves to be marked, even when it wears the confetti of farce, and though the only thing we have left to offer afterward is words, useless as they are.”

By Christopher Solomon • Orion • 10 min • Gift Link

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3️⃣ The Relationship Between Elephant And Keeper

Nicola Sebastian: “In Karen culture, elephants are working animals, but they’re also more than that. The community performs many of the same ceremonies for elephants as they do for people, bestowing on them family heirlooms like gold coins and traditional handwoven clothing.

“According to the oral history of Non Chai’s family, their elephants have been passed down for seven generations. ⁠Because elephants live as long as humans do — up to 80 years or more in captivity — their family trees are intertwined, generation to generation, so that Non Chai refers to the elephant his grandmother raised as simply Grandmother Elephant.”

By Nicola Sebastian • Atmos • 10 min • Gift Link

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But why am I SO exhausted?

Hi everyone! It’s Melinda. Welcome to Melinda’s Grief Corner! If this is your first time here, be sure to check out past posts to learn more about the inspiration behind this new Article Club feature and read about other grief-y topics I’ve covered with resources I’ve shared! Glad to have you here!

The emotional part of grief is something you can kind of understand before you’re ever on a grief journey. We see it in movies, read about it in books, we listen to grief-y lyrics in songs - longing, sadness, pain, heartache.

What I didn’t realize were the physical parts of grief. Particularly, the complete exhaustion.

When I tell you dear reader that I was completely wiped out the weeks and months immediately after my dad died, I mean it.

Like going to bed at 6:00 pm tired.

Like sleeping 12 hours and waking up still exhausted kind of tired.

The kind of tired where I honestly thought I needed to go to the doctor to make sure nothing was actually wrong with me.

Turns out nothing was actually wrong with me. Nothing medically anyway. It’s just that grief exists in our body just as much as it does in our emotions.

And let’s be honest.

Grieving is EXHAUSTING.

What didn’t register for me at the time was that my body was in survival mode. I was in shock at the death of my dad. Anxious about how my mom was feeling over the death of her husband. Overwhelmed by ALL of the things you need to do when someone dies (the number of forms I had to fill out!) - updating friends and family about what happened, where the memorial would be, where they could send flowers etc.

I mean no wonder I was exhausted. I was grieving the loss of the person I loved the most and the longest. And on top of that I was just trying to keep me and my mom afloat through the wreckage.

It never occurred to me that other people have also experienced grief fatigue until I talked to other grief-y friends. It turns out, it is extremely common to feel completely wiped out in the early stages of grief. (I’ve also realized it can happen in the later stages of grief, but more on that in a future newsletter).

During the early stages of my grief fatigue, I found this helpful article from What’s Your Grief that discusses why grief can leave us completely exhausted.

What I learned is that 1) I am not weird for sleeping 12 hours a day for several months after my dad died and 2) that there are many reasons why I was exhausted.

The article helpfully lays out 10 reasons why someone may be exhausted when in those early stages of grief (early is of course relative to you!). For me several of the reasons rang true, particularly the hyper-vigilance I felt after my dad died (I was constantly worried someone else I loved would die) and my mind being on overdrive (see above all of the tasks you have to do after someone dies, my to-do list kept my mind completely on all of the time).

I hope dear reader that you find some solace in this article and that maybe you feel less alone in your grief fatigue!

Feel free to share in the comments your thoughts and reactions to the article!

Until next time, big hugs!

#490: “It Is An Opportunity That Comes With Risks”

Hi Loyal Readers. I have two pieces of good news to begin this week’s newsletter:

  1. Many of you reached out after last week’s issue to say kind things. Thank you.

  2. Several of you signed up for our discussion of “The Egg” on April 27

That’s what Article Club is all about. We’re a kind, thoughtful community that likes to read and discuss the best articles on race, education, and culture. Whether you’re a new or not-so-new subscriber, thank you for being here.

Over the last 5 ½ years, one consistent feature of this newsletter has been its monthly interviews with authors. We launched with Jia Tolentino back in January 2020 and have never looked back. This week, I’m excited to share a conversation that my co-host

Melinda Lim

had with Susan Berfield, who co-wrote “The Egg” with a team of investigative journalists at Bloomberg. My hope is that you’ll listen to the interview and then sign up for our discussion on April 27.


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If learning more about the human egg trade is not your thing, scroll down past the fold for two other pieces that I feel are worthy of your time and attention. They’re about:

As always, thank you for trusting me to supply you with things to read. My hope is that they spark new thinking, expand your empathy, and bring you joy.

An interview with Susan Berfield, author of “The Egg”

The more I re-read “The Egg,” the more I respect Susan Berfield and her colleagues at Bloomberg who brought us this robust report on the human egg trade. If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, I highly recommend you do:

Original Article Gift LinkGoogle Docs versionAudio version

Sadly, this kind of journalism — big investigative journalism — rarely exists anymore. That is why I am so grateful that Susan Berfield generously said yes to sharing her thoughts with us at Article Club.

In her interview with Melinda, Ms. Berfield shares the impetus for the article, how she and her team went about reporting it, and the lessons she learned along the way. I appreciated how Ms. Berfield characterizes the tension between the opportunity and the exploitation that women experience in selling their eggs.

It’s a thoughtful conversation on an important topic — one that seems to be receiving a lot of attention lately. I hope you take a listen and let me know your thoughts.

Thanks again to Ms. Berfield. Here’s more on her work:

Susan Berfield is an award-winning investigative reporter and editor for Bloomberg Businessweek and Bloomberg News where she’s exposed how Walmart spies on its workers and McDonald's made enemies of its Black franchisees. She uncovered a con man who talked a small Missouri town out of millions and revealed how Beverly Hills billionaires bought up an enormous water supply in the Central Valley. Her story about the biggest food fraud in U.S. history was the basis for an episode of the Netflix documentary series, Rotten.

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This is loyal reader Anne’s morning walk in Marin County, California. Not bad, Anne — not bad! Fellow readers, where do you find your peace?

This is loyal reader Anne’s morning walk in Marin County, California. Not bad, Anne — not bad! Fellow readers, where do you find your peace?

2️⃣ The Department Of Everything

Stephen Akey: “⁠How do you find the life expectancy of a California condor? Google it. Or the gross national product of Morocco? Google it. Or the final resting place of Tom Paine? Google it. There was a time, however — not all that long ago — when you couldn’t Google it or ask Siri or whatever cyber equivalent comes next. You had to do it the hard way—by consulting reference books, indexes, catalogs, almanacs, statistical abstracts, and myriad other printed sources. Or you could save yourself all that time and trouble by taking the easiest available shortcut: You could call me.”

By Stephen Akey • The Hedgehog Review • 8 min • Gift Link

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3️⃣ Greek Tragedy: A Drowning At Dartmouth

Susan Zalkind: “Signs of Won Jang’s mounting distress appeared almost immediately after he pledged the Beta Alpha Omega fraternity in the fall of 2023. During calls and visits home, his parents noticed their once-confident son had lost his spark, increasingly preoccupied with his standing among fraternity brothers. He worried about how he fit in — or didn’t — with the brothers and about the ‘vibe’ of his house. ‘I could see that it was very stressful because he didn’t feel like he fit into the mold of what a person from that house would be,’ a college friend later explained, speaking on the condition of anonymity for fear of student blowback. ‘He wasn’t a white athlete. He wasn’t tall. He wasn’t from an affluent family. And he felt like he had to compensate for that.’ ”

By Susan Zalkind • Boston Magazine • 26 min • Gift Link

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Another Bad Article About Reading

Hi there Article Clubbers!

I want to thank you again for supporting me and Article Club. Your paid subscription does many things, including letting me to subscribe to a large number of publications and provide gift links to the articles I select for the newsletter.

To demonstrate my gratitude, I have a diatribe for you today. It’s about a guest essay that appeared in The New York Times a while back. The title is, “Let Students Finish the Whole Book. It Could Change Their Lives.” It’s about kids-these-days and the decline of reading. You can read the piece with all my notes here:

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For context, you may remember my hatchet job last fall of a similar article, published in The Atlantic Monthly. Yes, I know: I should let these things go. But if you write about reading, and you’re snooty, and you complain about kids, and you don’t know what you’re talking about, I’m going to let you know.

So here goes — first the article, then my thoughts. Please enjoy.

Let Students Finish The Whole Book

Tim Donahue teaches English at a fancy independent school in Connecticut. Like many of us, he’s worried about the decline of reading among young people. He laments that reading scores are down. He wants more reading joy.

Mr. Donahue believes the reason we’re in this mess is that teachers at other schools no longer require students to read whole books. Besides citing a 2022 announcement by the National Council of Teachers of English, he does not present any evidence that this trend is actually happening. Still, he wishes other students can be like his students, who read the entirety of Bewilderment, by Richard Powers.

By Tim Donahue • The New York Times • 5 min • Gift LinkMy Annotations

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💬 My thoughts on the article

Before diving into my rant, I want to be clear: I appreciate that we’re seeing more articles warning us about the decline of reading. The writers aren’t wrong! I feel a similar sense of doom. But what I don’t like is how people are sounding the alarm. In short, they’re all over the place. Here are a couple reasons that I didn’t like this one:

1️⃣ Mr. Donahue snootily preaches to the choir
It doesn’t bother me that Mr. Donahue teaches at a fancy independent school. But it does bother me that right from the beginning of the piece, Mr. Donahue narrows his already elite New York Times-reading audience down to an even-more-erudite sliver of the population. Doing so makes his argument easier to prove, because he’s writing to people who already agree with him.

How does he pull this off? Take a look at the first paragraph:

Yes, that’s a quotation from Dorothy Allison, author of Bastard Out of Carolina. No, I didn’t recognize the name. Do you? (In a very unscientific poll, only 1 in 5 of my elite-college-graduate friends did.) This move creates intimacy with people in the know (even if they haven’t read a word of Ms. Allison’s work) and creates distance from people who aren’t adequately well-read to hang with the cool crowd. (What’s worse: His inclusion of the quotation does little to advance his argument.) And we’re just three lines in!

Just in case making your reader feel excluded once in an essay isn’t enough, Mr. Donahue returns to the same maneuver in the conclusion. This time, he namedrops Virginia Woolf. A sigh of relief: I’m familiar with the author and thereby pass his test this time. But that doesn’t mean I’ve actually read her work (except for passing my eyes over To The Lighthouse 30 years ago), which seems important in an essay championing reading.

By making me (and likely other readers) jump through hoops just to feel worthy to read his essay, Mr. Donahue is limiting his audience and therefore his message. If his point is to change high school ELA curriculum and instruction, it’d make sense that Mr. Donahue would want to cast a wide net, making sure to be inclusive of teachers and parents and education policymakers. He does the opposite here.

2️⃣ Mr. Donahue is scanty on evidence
I will reiterate what I wrote last fall: If you want me to believe you, please give me reason to do so. For me, this means evidence.

Mr. Donahue believes high school English teachers do not have their students read enough whole books. This is the problem that we must fix, he argues. That’s the whole point of his essay. So one would think that his first step would be to let it be known that this is in fact the case. He doesn’t do this. Instead, he quotes Dorothy Allison (see above).

It takes Mr. Donahue two full pages to offer his only piece of evidence to support his claim. His evidence: A position statement in 2022 by the National Council of Teachers of English, which encouraged teachers “to decenter book reading and essay writing as the pinnacles of English language arts education” and to consider creating sets of texts and a variety of assessments.

This kind of thing I call “peripheral evidence.” In other words, it could be related to the claim Mr. Donahue is making, but in no way is it precise. Just because the higher-ups at NCTE wrote a white paper does not mean that teachers actually read it or followed through with its pronouncements. If I were Mr. Donahue and wanted to use peripheral evidence, I’d much rather go with Rose Horowitch’s move: blaming Common Core’s shift to short, informational texts.

To make things worse, Mr. Donahue then constructs evidence entirely out of his imagination. Here it is:

Just to make sure, I looked at the NCTE position statement to see if this example was there. It’s not. I’m sure that Mr. Donahue got this example from some teacher, but even if he cited his source, it’d be one anecdote from one classroom in one school. That’s not sufficient to convince me.

Here’s a little secret: I actually believe that teachers are assigning fewer books. (Gasp!) In my experience (sample size = 1) as an educator, I’ve definitely seen a decline. But as a reader, it doesn’t matter what I believe as an educator. As a reader, I’m looking for how the author provides evidence. Is there enough? Does it actually line up with what the author wants me to believe?

Otherwise, I‘m just agreeing with the author’s assumptions (see my point above about the snooty choir). Otherwise, I needn’t read the essay in the first place, except to feel good about myself.

💬 Your Turn: What do you think?

Now that I’ve shared my views, what’s your perspective? I’d love to get a conversation going in the comments. You can write about the article, or my opinion on the article. Do you agree or disagree with the author’s claim, “Schools need to be a bastion of the analog experience of the physical book”?

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In typical Article Club fashon, be sure to be kind and thoughtful!

Thank you for reading this, and thank you for all your support,

Mark

#489: I’ve Been Meaning To Call

Do you have a friend you’ve been meaning to call? — who you think about often, but you never get around to reaching out, for some reason, and at this point, it’s been a long time, which only adds to the massive regret you feel?

I do. If this is you, too, what’s stopping us? (Is it capitalism?)

That’s the heart of this week’s lead article, “I’ve Been Meaning to Call” (gift link), by Paul Crenshaw. It’s a great short piece. I hope you read it.

If you’re a perfect person and all your friendships are 100 percent solid, skip down past the fold for two other great articles — the first on what to do with the abundance of human embryos stuck in freezers around the world, and the second on the question of whether we should think heterosexuality is a choice.

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April’s article of the month is “The Egg” (Gift LinkGoogle Docs versionAudio), an investigation into the human egg trade, by Susan Berfield and a team of journalists at Bloomberg. The depth of the reporting is extraordinary. The piece will leave you informed, disturbed, and wanting to share your thoughts with other kind people. If you’re interested:

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1️⃣ I’ve Been Meaning To Call

There’s something lovely about this essay. Paul Crenshaw writes to an unnamed friend, sharing his regret for not being in contact. “It’s been so long now you must think I’m avoiding you,” he writes. “I am not avoiding you. I think about you often. I do.”

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my friends, too. It seems like we’re more out of touch than usual. It’s easy to say we’re busy (true), or that modern life makes things hard (sure), or if you really want to know the truth, it’s the soul-crushing impact of late-stage capitalism and “these dark times” (no argument here).

But sometimes I think it’s easier to read articles and ruminate (and wish my friends would reach out first) than it is simply to pick up the phone and call or text.

Why is that?

Mr. Crenshaw’s poignant essay offered me a fresh perspective. There are reasons that distance develops, that time slips by, that isolation deepens. Sometimes, these reasons are sound. But even when distance makes sense, the loss of connection is profound. Ultimately, how many true friends will we be lucky to have in our lifetimes?

I also appreciated the pace of this piece. It’s short but takes its time. I could feel Mr. Crenshaw’s reflection — and his regret. I hope you read it.

By Paul Crenshaw • Melt With Me • 4 min • Gift Link

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2️⃣ The Strange Limbo of Frozen IVF Embryos

Reading “The Egg” this month and “Someone Else’s Daughter” back in January has left me wanting to learn more about IVF and the global trade of human eggs. On the one hand, as IVF technology advances, demand for eggs is surging, leading to exploitation and corruption in the market. On the other hand, we have millions (and maybe tens of millions, because no one knows) of frozen embryos stored indefinitely in clinics around the world. What should be done with all these embryos: dispose of them? donate them? sell them? keep them forever? Reporter Jessica Hamzelou does an excellent job exploring the moral, political, and psychological complexities of this issue. After all, for many of us, even if we’re not Christian, embryos hold a “special status,” somewhere in between a random set of cells and a full human life.

By Jessica Hamzelou • MIT Technology Review • 17 min • Gift Link
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3️⃣ Is Heterosexuality a Choice?

Back in the day when we were (for some reason) debating gay marriage, one popular question was, “Is homosexuality a choice? Or were you born that way?” Few people thought to ask whether heterosexuality is also a choice. Sociologist Jane Ward does so in her new course, Critical Heterosexuality Studies, which examines the challenges straight women face in relationships. Research suggests that heterosexuality often fails women, she argues, leading them to feel submissive and dissatisfied due to our society’s expectations (i.e., heteropessimistic or heteroresigned). Prof. Ward encourages her students to flip the script. She says, “[This class is] going to be a place where we worry about straight people. Where we feel sympathy for straight people. We are going to be allies to straight people.” She adds, Perhaps straight people would benefit from adopting insights from queer relationships.

By Jessica Bennett • The Cut • 17 min • Gift Link

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#488: The Egg

Welcome to April, Loyal Readers. This week’s issue is dedicated to our article of the month. I’m excited to announce that we’ll be reading, annotating, and discussing “The Egg,” by Susan Berfield and a team of reporters from Bloomberg. It’s an incredible piece of journalism about the human egg trade. Here’s a quick excerpt from the piece:

The human egg is a precious resource, exchanged in markets open, gray or black. To tell its story, we follow a teenage girl in India, lured into selling her eggs; a model in Argentina whose genetic makeup is prized; a mother in Greece, told by police that her eggs were stolen; and two “egg girls” from Taiwan who have put themselves at risk to earn money in the US.

Sound compelling? If so, you’re invited to join our deep dive on the article. We’re meeting up to discuss the piece on Sunday, April 27. There will two sessions for you to choose from: one in-person in Oakland (10 am - 12 Noon), and one online over Zoom (2 - 3:30 pm). All you need to do is click the button below to sign up.

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1️⃣ The Egg: A Story of Extraction, Exploitation and Opportunity

I’ve read a ton of articles over the past 10 years. The best ones do at least two things: they teach me something, and they grow my empathy. This piece about the global trade of human eggs did both — and much more. It blew me away, and I hope you take the time to read it.

A team of eight investigative journalists at Bloomberg travel around the world to report this story. They go to India, to Greece, to Argentina, to Taiwan, and to the United States. They follow five women who donate their eggs and share their reasons for doing so, de spite the medical dangers they face. They expose the lack of regulations in the industry and the large sums of money that are traded. They explore the ethical questions that arise — for instance: for whom is this explotation? for whom is this opportunity? Along the way, they explain the history of IVF and how technology has influenced the human egg industry’s boom.

This article had me hooked from beginning to end. The piece opens with an Indian girl, just 13 years old, who decides to sell her eggs because she’s always wanted a cell phone. Then there’s the part in China where postmenopausal women donate their urine, which is rich in hormones essential for use in fertility drugs. There are other parts, too. I could go on!

Instead, I’ll stop there and say this: This is an outstanding and important article, one worth reading slowly, thinking about, and discussing with other thoughtful people.

By Susan Berfield and Team • Bloomberg • 65 min • Gift LinkAudio

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⭐️ About the author

I’m excited to announce that Susan Berfield, one of the authors of the story, agreed to record an interview with Melinda, which will come out in two weeks. Thank you, Ms. Berfield, for generously sharing your thoughts about your piece.

Susan Berfield writes and edits investigative and feature stories for Bloomberg Businessweek. She's examined the dangers of generic drugs and the flaws in our recall system. She's revealed a company’s years-long effort to misinform residents and discredit activists seeking to remove nuclear waste from a Superfund site outside St. Louis. Several months later, the Environmental Protection Agency reversed an earlier decision and demanded the company do so. Using confidential documents, she exposed how Walmart spies on its workers to prevent them from organizing. And she helped uncover a con man who talked a small Missouri town out of millions and was later convicted of fraud.

Stories she’s edited were finalists for a National Magazine award and Overseas Press Club award. A collaboration with WNYC about the secretive family behind the largest mall in the country was a Gerald Loeb finalist. She’s also won awards from the Newswomen’s Club of New York, the New York Press Club, the Deadline Club, the American Society of Business Publication Editors, and the Education Writers’ Association. Her story about honey smugglers was the basis for an episode of the documentary series Rotten, which premiered on Netflix in 2018. She’s appeared on National Public Radio and PBS NewsHour.

Before joining Businessweek, she was a senior writer at Asiaweek in Hong Kong, where her story, “Ten Days that Shook Indonesia,” won the Society of Asian Publishers’ Reporting Award and the Hong Kong Human Rights Press Award.

She earned a master’s degree at the School of International and Public Affairs at Columbia University, where she was a Zuckerman Fellow. Her undergraduate degree is from Brown University; after graduating, she co-directed a documentary in India funded by Brown's Arnold Fellowship.

The Hour of Fate, her first book, was supported by the Logan Nonfiction Fellowship. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughter.

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#487: The Perfect A.I. Girlfriend

Dear Readers,

I’m happy you’re here. Before launching into this week’s articles, here are a few quick announcements for you:

  • Last Sunday’s discussion of “Radicalized” was awesome. Thank you to everyone who joined. If you signed up for Article Club hoping to discuss articles with other kind, thoughtful people, I can say with confidence: You gotta try it. Check out next Thursday’s issue, where I’ll be revealing April’s article of the month.

  • Speaking of awesome: Melinda was back on Sunday with her second installment of “Melinda’s Grief Corner.” I appreciate this semi-monthly feature very much. It would have come in handy when my dad passed away, all those years ago. You might think that grief isn’t your thing, but all of us are in good hands with Melinda.

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Now let’s get to this week’s issue. Up until this past week, I’ve avoided thinking deeply about the inevitable advent of artificial intelligence. Sure, I’ve done a lot of reading about it and talked with my friends about it. But for the most part, my approach has been to bury my head in the sand. I’ve deluded myself to think: If I refuse to engage in A.I., then maybe it doesn’t exist.

But over the past few months — seemingly in the blink of an eye — I believe we have reached the point of no return. (Editor’s note: I’m really doling out the clichés today!) It wasn’t the rise of ChatGPT that set me off. Or that students are seemingly no longer writing any of their essays or reading any of their books or doing any of their homework without assistance from A.I. What sounded the alarm bells for me was coming to grips that people, including young people, are having full-on romantic relationships (with emotions, with sex) with chatbots.

At school this morning, I told my principal: I predict that next year, we will face conflict and discipline issues resulting from drama caused by A.I. boyfriends and girlfriends.

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1️⃣ The Perfect A.I. Girlfriend

Michal Lev-Ram: “While early research suggests that AI companions may provide benefits to those suffering from a variety of disorders, including social anxiety and depression, the rates of which have been on the rise among young people for years, they can also set up unrealistic expectations for real-life relationships. That, in turn, could push people who are already prone to isolation to want to engage with the real world even less.

“Real-world relationships and communal rituals, many would argue, are fundamental to human development and happiness. Through inevitable conflict and resolution, being part of a couple or a community can teach us to communicate, negotiate, and control our emotions when needed. These human relationships can also help teach us right from wrong. But in a world where AI is not just always there but always supportive, there is not much learning to be had. AI companions are safe, yes, but it’s from facing risk in the real world that we learn, both as children and as adults.”

By Michal Lev-Ram • Esquire • 20 min • Gift Link

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2️⃣ She’s In Love With ChatGPT

Reporter Kashmir Hill profiles a 28-year-old woman named Ayrin who has become attached to her A.I. boyfriend, Leo.

⁠⁠“It was supposed to be a fun experiment, but then you start getting attached,” Ayrin said. She was spending more than 20 hours a week on the ChatGPT app. One week, she hit 56 hours, according to iPhone screen-time reports. She chatted with Leo throughout her day — during breaks at work, between reps at the gym.

Ms. Hill also interviews psychologists and other experts, asking them what they think about the future of relationships with A.I. chatbots. One said, “Within the next two years, it will be completely normalized to have a relationship with an A.I.”

By Kashmir Hill • The New York Times • 13 min • Gift Link

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3️⃣ The Dark Side To Virtual Companions

If the next two years will bring the normalization of relationships with chatbots, what will happen in the next decade? Reporter Arwa Mahdawi says we’ll have intimate relationships with A.I.-powered robots. She writes:

Liberty Vittert, a data science professor, said: “Physical AI robots that can satisfy humans emotionally and sexually will become a stark reality in less than 10 years. As the technology gets better, people will soon have AI robots to replace human partners — and they will be able to satisfy men both emotionally and sexually. And when that starts to happen, married men with kids will begin to leave their families to embrace their ‘ideal relationships’ with AI girlfriends.”

By Arwa Mahdawi • The Guardian • 6 min • Gift Link

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Grief, Growth, and Google

Hi everyone! It’s Melinda. Welcome to Melinda’s Grief Corner! If this is your first time here, be sure to check out my intro post to learn more about the inspiration behind this new Article Club feature and what to expect from this series! Glad to have you here!

In the early days (I guess it’s still early days? Time is stupid) after my dad’s death, I kept thinking that grief was the only thing I could feel. That my body had absolutely no capacity for anything that wasn’t the smorgasbord of grief-y feelings.

And I kept asking myself “will my life just be this now, just BIG grief 24/7?”

I did what people normally do in this situation.

I asked Google for its opinion. Note - I do not recommend doing this.

Now while I got a lot of weird stuff in the 24977897829789 search results that Google spat out at me, I did find an article that I found extremely helpful.

Let me introduce “Growing Around Grief,” a 1996 article by Dr. Lois Tonkin (via whatsyourgrief.org).

Dr. Tonkin describes being in a workshop with a mother whose child had died years prior. The mother drew a sketch of her grief and how she thought it would progress over time and then how it actually felt for her.

From “Growing Around Grief: another way of looking at grief and recovery” by Dr. Lois Tonkin. Figure 1 represents the mother’s grief and figure two is her prediction of what grief would look like as time passed.

Also from Dr. Lois Tonkin’s article. Figure 3 represents how the mother’s life grew around her grief

The figures show that the mother’s grief always stayed the same size, but that her life grew around her grief. Put another way in the article, her life expanded around her loss.

After reading through this article, I had an “Ah-ha” moment to quote Oprah. The loss I felt would always be big. It wouldn’t change in its big-ness. But my life could get bigger around it.

My dad is foundational to who I am. He is everything I wanted to be in life. Losing him felt like losing the air in my lungs and also all of the oxygen had been sucked out of the room. It felt like the ground underneath me had cracked open and I’m just going to be free-falling until the world ends.

The big-ness of losing him is terrifying. But I’ve realized shrinking my grief is not the point. And also not possible.

He may no longer be alive, but he is just as important today as he was when he taught me how to make pancakes when I was 5 years old. He may even be more important.

What I’ll try to do each day is to make my life bigger around the loss. And dear reader, I think I have in some ways!

A few months after his death, I started working with a personal trainer and I can now deadlift 105 pounds (I know, unbelievable, but I would NEVER lie to you!).

I made new friends.

I finally made a mug in pottery class I am not ashamed of.

I’ve gone out on dates (yes, I am single! I do come with a cat!).

I have found ways to add to my life. To feel the bigness of my grief. And to feel the bigness of my life.

So dear reader, I hope this resource resonates with you as much as it did with me. And that it gives you hope for a future where your life gets bigger around your grief.

And I’d love it if, in the comments, you shared one way that you’ve made your life a bit bigger in your grief. Or one way you want to make your life bigger! I’m here to cheer you on!

Big hugs!